Being Selfish Commands Respect

Adjective

Concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself : seeking or concentrating on one’s own advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for others

It’s okay to be selfish. In fact, being selfish can make you a heavily respected leader. 

It means you can say no to friends, family, and jobs that require too much time away from what you need to do. It means unapologetically cutting folks off that routinely drain your energy or attempt to take advantage of your kindness. It means not feeding into distractions with no extra explanations or excuses. It’s being fearless, going after what you want and not giving one or two f***s about it. 

Getting rid of negative energy might make you quote unquote selfish. Okay, that’s fine. But only by being selfish are we able to make room to step into our best selves. When you say no to something that you barely have interest in, you naturally open that time slot for things, events, people, clients, priorities that matter.  Like being involved in your community, being there for your kids, volunteering for causes you care about or investing more in your business. It doesn’t matter what it is. You set the terms for what’s important to you, everything else can be attended to later or thrown out and deleted from the to-do list.

When you reach that godly level of prioritization, you tend to automatically get bumped up as a leader in the eyes of others.  Why? Because this invisible halo of confidence, assuredness, and badassery forms around you and follows you everywhere. Folks see it and learn to respect it because it becomes part of your aura, your persona.  This type of energy is envied because becoming selfish is something most folks cannot consistently maintain. But no worries, as long as you are making progress with becoming more and more selfish with your time, then you’ll get to that enviable status in no time.   Good leaders need to know how to compartmentalize and exercise good judgement. Sometimes good leaders ruffle a few feathers – but that’s okay, needed even, when you’re focused and driven.

I’d advise you all to be more selfish with your time, so you can show up bigger, better and brighter for what matters.

To more money in our pockets,

Chika 

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